How to be a happy woman? This is a question beautiful women can ask themselves at any age – in 30 years, 40 years, 50 years and older. The main reason for “unhappiness”, they believe, is the absence of a loved one, their uselessness, loneliness.
If for a long time it is not possible to find a chosen one or have to go through a divorce, many feel hopelessness. Negative thoughts drive women into a dead end, which makes them stop enjoying every day.
What does psychology say about this? Is it possible to begin to enjoy life, to become happy? Well, of course. If you are married, divorced, or haven’t had a serious relationship yet, you can always enjoy life.. Experts say that happiness is near. You just need to see it. How to do this, you will learn next.
To be a happy man – to be content with life
Immediately a logical question arises: but what is happiness? The thing is that it is impossible to answer it unambiguously, because for each person it will be different. Someone to feel happy allows public recognition, high social status.
Someone for this need a fabulous amount of money. Someone can not feel happy without a loved one, family and children. In general, the measure of happiness is different for everyone.
Happiness is a harmonious state of mind, the pleasure of life and himself. If a woman accepts herself for who she is, she will be happy. Writer Ayn Rand, known for her great works “Atlas Shrugged” and “The Source,” argued that that to be happy, you have to be in harmony with yourself.. Winning the love of others should not be the goal. Love does not equate to happiness, just as a love relationship cannot guarantee inner harmony.
The philosopher Blaise Pascal believed that happiness is a feeling of contentment in the here and now. It is something that may not depend on material goods or particular people. Happy people are those who enjoy the present moment.
According to the philosophy of Epicurus, happiness is a sense of serenity, of peace of mind.. To achieve this state, you need to get rid of suffering. And what causes suffering? First of all, fears and unfulfilled desires that prevent us from enjoying life. Epicurus also argued that there are three kinds of pleasure:
- Natural, Necessary;
- natural, not necessary;
- unnatural, not necessary.
It is the first pleasures, which are easy to obtain, that can bring a woman true happiness. All others can make a man chase all his life what he does not really need.
Epicurus, who lived and thought several centuries before Christ, very accurately described the problems that remain relevant at all times. It suggests that human nature is always unchanged – it is not affected by the change of generations, nor by progress, nor by fashionable trends.
Psychologists say that any person can become happy, no matter what kind of problems he/she has, what kind of mood he/she is in, what kind of people surround him/her etc. You just need to listen to the experts and people who have managed to achieve the main goal in life – to become truly happy.
What makes a woman happy?
A woman is an amazing creature. Being both fragile and tender, she has a strong energy, which helps to take responsibility for her family, to surround relatives and loved ones with care.
To be happy, it is necessary for the five aspects of life to be in harmony:
- Physical. Few would argue that a person needs to do things that really bring him pleasure. For example, a job one loves, playing sports, helping those in need, intimacy, after all, is something different and personal for everyone. If certain physical activities are not to one’s liking, they don’t make one feel happy.
- Emotional. Human beings are emotional creatures and dependent on moods. Joyful people who perceive life positively with all its manifestations are unequivocally happy.
- Social. To feel belonging to a certain social group, to feel needed, to have a so-called kindred spirit – without this it is impossible to feel happy.
- Intellectual. The opportunity to get an education (if one really needs it), to find an interesting job, to do what one likes, to continue to develop – an aspect that occupies an important place in a person’s life.
- Spiritual. What can indicate happiness in this area? If you are calm, not fixated on material things, enjoy every day you live, sincerely help people and animals in need, then you are certainly happy in the spiritual aspect.
A lot of people think that that a woman’s primary purpose… – To find happiness, to love, to support the people you love, to create something new and beautiful. To feel like a beloved woman, a wife, to be close to the person you love, to raise children is an important condition to achieve happiness.
Now it becomes clear why most people associate themselves with the presence of a man in their lives. And if for some reason they don’t have one, they start looking for a man who is ready to build a life together. And what if for a long time, these searches do not bring successful results and the woman continues to be single?
Obsession and failures in her personal life do not give peace. It is difficult for her to feel happy without a man. Is it all so bad or is it still possible to be happy, not dwelling on the relationship with the opposite sex?
What is loneliness like?
There are two main categories of women who try to be happy without a man:
- Frustrated .. They may desperately want to get married or at least have a close relationship with a man, but Because of their negative experiences, they are afraid to confide in someone. More often than not, these fears stem from the fact that previous relationships haven’t worked out, the woman has been betrayed by a loved one, has negative examples of other couples, etc. All leads to her becoming a person who Repels from herself those who could really give them happiness.
- Free. These women stay single consciously .. The reasons may be different: the desire to first build a career and become financially independent, unwillingness to listen to a man’s opinion and the ability to solve all problems independently.
In general, happiness depends on the woman’s own attitude toward herself and her life. It often happens that the lady, exhausted by a long search for a worthy partner, still finds him, but she continues to feel unhappy, feeling empty inside and lacking something important. This makes you think that you need to start with yourself and change internally, and not try to change others.
How not to become lonely?
Loneliness is not the absence of loved ones or close people in life. It’s more of a state of mind, a feeling of being unwanted.. After all, there are cases when a person is surrounded by a huge number of relatives, friends and acquaintances, but still feels lonely. There are also quite different situations.
Some women are enough to have the only person close in spirit or even rarely contact with other people, but at the same time to live in harmony with themselves, so as not to feel lonely.
But, still, those who do not want to be alone with himself, tormenting himself with thoughts of excruciating loneliness, it will be useful to know about The most common causes of this phenomenon among women:
- A woman as a man.. It is not about a woman’s masculine appearance, but about the peculiarities of her character. They always know what to do, do not listen to the opinions of others, often earn good money and can even understand the male part of the household work. At the same time a woman can be incredibly beautiful and well-groomed. Most men shun such ladies, as they may lose out considerably on their background.
- Feminist attitudes.. There are a growing number of women in the world who deliberately refuse relationships with men or prefer a relationship that is not burdensome and not obliging to anything. They want, above all, to fulfill themselves in some other sphere – work, volunteer work, etc. There may be different reasons why women hold such views.
- Excessive demands on the representatives of the stronger sex. Some women believe that men owe them everything, but they do not want to do their share of the housework. They believe that they deserve the best, so at the slightest disobedience or inability to comply with the whims of men, they resort to manipulation or blackmail, threatening to break up (which, in fact, often end such relationships).
- Selfish motives. Some of the fair sex see men as a way to get some benefits. They carefully study the candidates, may enter into a relationship more than once, and choose a person who is more worthy by their standards. Often it takes many years to find the right person, and it’s a good thing if a woman manages to find the right person. But most men feel such an attitude towards themselves, and because of this they do not hurry to make a woman happy, to create a family with her.
- Female coldness. There is a type of women who in psychology are called “snow queens”. They can be extremely attractive and even outwardly flawless, erudite, intelligent, insightful and successful in their career. But at the same time they are very unhappy in their personal lives. Without realizing it, they repel men with their coldness, unwillingness to think about anyone else but themselves. Because of their perfectionism, which they carefully cherish and nurture, it is impossible for them to build a harmonious relationship. Men feel uncomfortable around such ideal women, so they are afraid of them. Find out Learn more about the habits of unhappy people..
If you recognize yourself, a friend, one of your relatives or close people in these descriptions, then now you understand what the cause of loneliness may lie.
How not to feel unhappy after a divorce?
A large number of women have had to go through a divorce. Disappointment, dissatisfaction with life, fear of being left alone forever – these are only some of the problems that bother them after this difficult stage of life. It is especially difficult for those who have lived with a loved one side by side for many years and faced betrayal.
The first thing to do is to stop worrying, to stop fearing the future.. Yes, a lot of things change for a woman after divorce: the rhythm of life, the level of responsibility and commitment, perhaps the level of wealth and the need to take care of children herself. But you have to understand that happiness does not depend on having a man. After all, you had him, and it still did not bring you joy?
To become joyful, start noticing the joys in your life every day.. You can even have a notebook, in which you write down your dreams and desires – the things that are sure to bring you joy. Let it be even very small wishes – it doesn’t matter.
Try to fulfill at least one of them every day. Fill your life with the things you love and want.. Just discard the excuses that you lack the strength, time, knowledge, money or anything else. Believe me: After a few weeks of working on yourself, you’ll want to please yourself .. That’s how happiness becomes a habit.
One more thing. Always, no matter what the circumstances, remain a woman. Don’t take on all of a man’s worries.. You need to fix something in the apartment, carry heavy things or make a strictly male decision? Hire professionals to do this or ask for help from your friends in the stronger sex. This will help you not to lose their feminine energy, which is so attractive to men.
How to achieve inner harmony?
So, you’re ready to be happy? Then you need to try a little and take advantage of a few techniques that will not make it worse.
Learn how to relax
The first thing to remember: do not take on all of your worries. Some of the household chores you can trust your husband, children or some relatives. Also, do not overburden yourself with work after hours, do not think about work things when you should be resting.
In order to relax effectively, you can use different methods. Many people find massages, aromatherapy, baths, saunas or spas helpful. Even if you don’t have the money for such procedures, you can always find a decent alternative: a leisurely walk in the park, relaxing by the water, a hot bath with essential oils, etc.
Get rid of unnecessary things.
Loads of unnecessary things and childhood resentments Often does not allow a woman to breathe a sigh of relief and let something wonderfully new into her life. Get rid of clothes that you will no longer wear, throw out or give someone some items that you no longer need. Just don’t put it all off again and again. Don’t regret or hesitate. By the way, the same can be said for unnecessary relationships that bring nothing but misery, disappointment and problems.
Take care of yourself
Take care of your appearance and internal state:
- Properly plan your work and rest routines. Go to bed earlier and wake up earlier.
- Get rid of bad habits that make you feel tired, apathetic. Quit smoking, start eating rationally, give up bad habits. If you sometimes allow yourself to drink, let it be good wine in small quantities and on special occasions.
- Fall in love with your figure. If you are dissatisfied with the imperfections of his body, much can be corrected by proper nutrition, sports (choose the most appropriate direction for themselves), cosmetic procedures. By the way, this will help raise your vitality, be active and confident.
- If necessary, change your image – get a new hairstyle, try new styles of clothing and dare to experiment in fashion.
- Pick up a perfume or a way to makeup, if you haven’t done it before. Many women find it helps to always feel confident.
Find a new hobby
You can take up the study of psychology, start visiting exhibitions and museums, read interesting books. If you have long wanted to learn the art of photography or makeup, take appropriate master classes. Wanted to learn the secrets of creating origami, ikebana or products from beads? Sign up for one of these classes. Yes, the options are many. Hiking, mountain climbing, dancing, pottery, tailoring – think about what you can do with a passion, without forcing yourself.
Make time to socialize
Do not be afraid to make new acquaintances, meet with your relatives and old friends. At the same time, try to communicate less with people who have a prevailing negative thinking. Their complaints will only upset you, make you sad, and that over time you run the risk of becoming exactly the same.
If you still do not know how to become happy, listen to yourself. What do you want? Throw away all the stereotypes and opinions imposed on you by other people. Feel in your heart what can bring you pleasure and take action. Pay attention to yourself, not to a meaningless search.
Happiness itself will find you when you become internally calm and achieve harmony. And remember: To feel happy as a woman, even if you are alone, you do not have to be in a relationship, have high social status or wealth. You just need to live in harmony with yourself..
With love and faith in you, Maria Shakti.
