An unhappy person who does not get anywhere in life, is constantly in some kind of trouble, is perpetually depressed, discouraged and feels unable to do anything – do you recognize someone you know in this description, or maybe even yourself? Do you think there’s nothing you can do about it, so you have to carry the burden of unhappiness for the rest of your life?
Did you know that our thoughts and habits can make us both happy and deeply unhappy people. It’s worth paying close attention to what we think, say, and do. Beautiful, smart, rich and not alone people can also be unhappy. This proves that We ourselves can hinder our happiness by not letting it come into our lives.
Why are people unhappy: the most common reasons?
Often the cause of our unhappiness lies in our thoughts, our actions, our behavior, our words. Let’s say a woman looks at her friend and wonders why she may have a worse financial situation, a less successful job or an ordinary husband, but somehow she is happier. And then this woman asks herself the question: why am I unhappy? What is wrong?
Let’s face it: happiness does not depend on financial well-being, high position in society, presence of husband or wife etc.. It depends on how satisfied you are with yourself and your life, whether you feel harmony. You can have everything in life, but not feel its fullness and not enjoy it. But there is a way out, isn’t there?
First of all, such a person needs to Find possible reasons that hinder their happiness. Psychologists and I myself have decided to help you and name the habits of chronically unhappy people. We will talk about them further.
1. Constant expectation of something
An unhappy person Constantly expects to become happy only after some momentous event occurs in their life.A good-paying job, a promotion, a new love knocking at your door, a long-awaited big purchase, etc. Stop thinking like that! You are You are becoming too dependent on circumstancesThat can sometimes develop independently of you. Because of this you prevent yourself from being happy here and now, becoming a hostage to the will of fate. And what guarantee is there that what you expect will ever come true?
2. Dedicating your efforts and time to acquiring unnecessary
A person naively believes that he will become really happy if he gets some expensive thing and thanks to this he will be elevated in the eyes of society. Yes, at first he will feel euphoria after acquiring a long-awaited item or “toy. Over time, new purchases will cease to bring pleasure. Unfortunately, material possessions are not capable of making people really happy. And others, in truth, do not care if you have that expensive thing you’ve been longing for. Interest can be piqued for just a few days, hours, or even minutes.
If you constantly try to become higher in the eyes of others at the expense of expensive items, you can aimlessly waste your life and miss out on something important – Family, a job you love, or time with family and friends.
Self-pity and victim behavior
A happy person will not constantly feel sorry for himself and say that nothing depends on him in this life. Only unhappy people think and say that. Yes, there are situations in life that arise independently of us. But, you don’t want to give up and wallow in self-pity.. Resist the circumstances, try to change something. Or just change your attitude toward the situation, not the situation itself, if you certainly can’t do anything about it.
4. Constant complaining about everything and everyone
If you spend all your time complaining about other people, circumstances, and everything else, it won’t do any good.. Such a person absolutely everything prevents you from becoming satisfied with life: unhappy love, misunderstanding with loved ones, problems at work, conflicts with neighbors. Over time, a persistent habit of complaining even about the smallest things, such as sudden rain, early departed transport, accidentally torn shoes. Thus a person constantly begins to convince himself that everything is bad. Yes, and let’s be honest, people around you avoid communicating with such people.
5. Constantly being in the company of the dissatisfied and unhappy
Everyone, even the deeply unhappy person communicates with someone. He usually picks his friends and acquaintances to fit him. If you know such a person, pay attention to his social circle. They often correspond to the unhappy person. Do you? Well.., try to avoid people like that.. Even the most cheerful and positive next to such personalities will soon become the same. But if the depressing thoughts come primarily from you, and not only from those around you, you will have to work on yourself.
6. Pathological striving for perfection
Perfectionists are often unhappy people. Why? Simply because they constantly strive to be better than others. If someone they know has achieved good results in losing weight, the perfectionist immediately rushes to create a perfect body. If someone managed to learn a foreign language in six months, the perfectionist sets a goal of learning it in three months. And so on to infinity. And this applies to different areas – work, family, home affairs, appearance, relationships, etc. I suggest you read the article “Relationships Without Expectations”.
On the one hand, such aspirations make the idealist constantly move on, do not stop on the achieved. But on the other hand, successes deliver brief episodes of happiness, after which a person rushes again to improve himself. And what if the goal as a result of the failed to achieve? Suffers not only ego but also self-esteem. And so to infinity. In addition, such people are very upset, and even cringe if someone did something better than him.
7. Unwillingness to develop
There is another facet – the refusal of self-development. Such individuals obediently wait for life to give them what they need. And all this instead of learning new things, setting and achieving goals, improving. And then such people sincerely wonder why they do not have positive changes..
8. Dependence on the opinion of others
Many unhappy people are constantly listening to the opinions of others. This can make them indecisive, fearful, or even if they do what they think is right, take a long time to wonder what people will say. You should not care about the opinion of others at all (Well, unless it’s the closest and dearest people to you). It’s your life and your decisions.
What to do if you are unhappy?
Analyze your behavior, thoughts, habits .. Have you found a problem? Work on it. Here are some basic recommendations on how to do it:
- Try to limit the influence of the media, watch less television, and don’t socialize with constantly sad people. On the contrary, Reach out to positive and joyful people..
- Don’t listen to other people. Listen to yourself.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Do not strive to be better than anyone else. The pursuit of perfection is pointless and endless. Realize that there are always people who will be better at something than you. This is normal. Find an activity that you love and strive to excel at it. But not to impress others, but for yourself.
- Get rid of unnecessary things in the house and in your head. Make way for something new..
- Don’t make your problems too big.. In life, there are not often events that are really scary and irreversible.
- Get along with cheerful people.…take walks, learn… .. To do this, find a way that suits you – relaxing massage, aromatherapy, sports, etc.
Remember: If you can’t change any circumstances (in most cases it is possible), change your attitude towards them. Happy people are not those whose lives are perfect. They are the ones who find positivity in everything, who are internally harmonious and completely independent of circumstances.
With love and faith in you, Maria Shakti.
