Friends, I want to share with you an amazing scheme that simply and playfully explains our anger and resentment in many situations in life. I took this excerpt from Ajahn Brahm’s book Opening the Gates of the Heart.
Perhaps this information will help you to have a new perspective on what is going on in your life right now or has already happened.
In any case, nowhere else have I come across such a simple and obvious interpretation of the processes that go on in our minds every time we get angry.
Justifying Anger
Before you manifest anger, you must justify it in your own eyes. You must convince yourself that anger is deserved, legitimate, just. If you view anger as a thought process, it is like a trial that takes place in the mind.
The defendant is on the bench in the court of your mind.
In the end, you conclude that there is all kinds of malice, guile, and extreme cruelty in the intent behind the defendant’s act. Then you dig up the many other “crimes” this person has committed against you in the past to convince your own conscience that he does not deserve clemency.
You are the accuser. You know the person is guilty, but for the sake of justice you must first prove this to the judge, your conscience. You visualize the “crime” committed against you.
Passing sentence
In a real, civil or criminal court, the accused has a lawyer who is also allowed to speak. But in the case of a mental trial, you are essentially attending the process of recognizing your own anger as legitimate and lawful.
You are not accept pathetic excuses, implausible explanations, or timid requests for forgiveness. Defense counsel is not allowed to speak. With your one-sided argument, you make a convincing case for guilt. And that is enough. Conscience passes judgment, hitting the judge’s gavel, and he is guilty! Now, in anger at that person, we feel superior.
Love Maria Shakti 
