It is said that our development is largely determined by our company, our environment, and the influence of the people around us. It is through interaction with people that we exchange not only information, ideas, values, opinions, but also energy.
This kind of exchange largely determines our direction in life, especially if we are not yet strong enough internally to be completely invulnerable and resilient in our development and movement through life. Basically, we absorb like sponges the informational waves of the environment that can throw us off course, make it less pleasant, even if only for a while.
Sometimes we communicate with people and feel that we waste energy and time on them, we realize the loss of energy after communication and realize that such interaction slows down our development, pulls us down, we stop developing and expanding our boundaries, getting stuck in old conventions, we lose our masculinity or femininity. But still, for some reason, we continue to communicate with them, often without even trying to limit this communication.
There are several scenarios for the development of such connections with people. Let’s break them down
1) Duty
There are people in our environment who are constantly solving their problems at our expense. This can take the form of a direct request for help and over time becomes habitual. Over time, you get tired of solving other people’s problems, as the requests become an escape from the person’s responsibility, and you become the best option for solving someone else’s problem.
This does not mean that the other party in such communications directly harms you, but by solving other people’s problems, thus depriving them of responsibility, you lose your time, effort and energy. Feeling your infinite duty to help others, you put a heavy weight around your neck, which can become a serious hindrance to your development. Appreciate your time and energy and don’t take responsibility and opportunities for growth from others.
2) Pity
There are some people in our midst who like to pull off a good one through complaining and gossiping. This kind of humanity is full of to whine and blame injustice on every subject they touch. However, taking action for change in their plans is not spelled out, and any advice is met with complaining breath and a wave that all useless. Being an instrument for draining such stagnation is a very unhygienic strategy. After communicating with such people the energy drains away in a few minutes, the mood fades, and, from an optimistic chipper we turn into a laggard.
Of course, it is much easier when such a person is not a close family member. And if, nevertheless, this section includes family ties, then simply refusing to communicate will not solve anything. Therefore, it is very important to learn to limit communication with such people or, better yet, to take them to another level. The point is not to forget about your family.
But to learn how to redirect the usual scheme of your relationships in a different direction. Learn to talk openly and with with love about your responsibility and your desire to reach another level of communication. And, of course, be prepared that after such a conversation, you may be accused of complete indifference. We cannot influence a person’s willingness to work on themselves. We can offer help, but whether to take it or not is not our choice.
3) Benefactors
There is another category of people. They are very difficult to ask for something, little things or important, they never have time for you, or after promises you never wait for the cherished help.
Often, such people are looking for profit everywhere, and if they help, they always hint at how difficult it was for them and that the request was made exclusively for your sake, thereby making you the debtor of circumstances.
4) Critics
Next on our list are. critics. If you share something important to you with such a person, your dreams If you share something important with such a person, your dreams, plans or ideas, they will definitely find something to complain about and express their disagreement. For example, they look at your changes concerning self-development with suspicion and misunderstanding. If your parents are like that, you should stop communicating or not disclose your plans or ideas for a while.
A person who falls into one or more of these categories may be a close friend or relative. What to do? Friends, value and love yourself first of all, believe in your limitless possibilities and live life according to your heart. With love, with respect for yourself comes an understanding of how best to communicate with people, with whom you are on the way, and with whom the paths diverge for a time or forever. Through self-love you are sure to attract into your life inspiring like-minded people and those who will support and encourage you.
