There are many teachings that hold it as axiomatic that attachment leads to suffering and that only unattachment can lead to freedom.
“You just have to let go!” – Almost everyone has heard this advice at least once in their lives, and they have probably given it themselves.
But talking about letting go is easy, and doing it is much harder. How do you let go of life while practicing non-attachment?
And I remember the moment when I thought about it, when I began to ponder how strong the connection between unattachment and true freedom was.
As I began to analyze my life, I realized how many different attachments I had. I found it hard to imagine what my life would look like without them, but they also caused me a lot of suffering. I suffered without a cup of fragrant coffee in the morning, without vibrant love relationships, without communication with the people closest to me.
At the same time, it turned out that I had given little thought to other kinds of attachments-the habits of evaluation and judgment, frustration and resentment, anger and doubt. At the moment I was beginning to think about all these things, the changes in me were just about to happen, but it was as if they lacked some kind of catalyst. Maybe everyone has a catalyst, but I just needed time.
A year went by and I started doing yoga and I had more people in my life who often said, “You just have to let it go. I thought it was really easy, and, as if wanting to prove it to myself, I broke off my relationship, changed my place of residence, and let my career take its course. Having done all this, I was never able to get rid of the discomfort of dissatisfaction, of doubts and worries, of worry and control.
In tune with the world
As I continued to practice nonattachment, I realized that it had nothing to do with the 
the “outer” facet of life, and there is a certain paradox in that.
On the one hand there is more time for spiritual and personal growth for those whose lives are not filled with a spectrum of commitments, but on the other hand the inner world can become limited and meager without bright ideas, friends and family.
By relinquishing the obligations of social life, we not only deprive ourselves of attachments in fact, we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to apply in practice, in real life, our spiritual knowledge. After all, it is impossible, for example, to get rid of pride, envy, anger and judgment. without communicating with the outside world.
It is impossible to learn compassion and empathy without the pressure of the “outer” side of life. There are many examples in everyone’s life, but it is worth realizing the main thing – unattachment is not indifference, is not inaction and carelessness, these are not identical concepts at all.
Non-attachment is not just a phenomenon, but rather an art which, when mastered, can fill one’s life with spirituality and meaningfulness. Krishna once said that to act correctly to achieve right action is to act with nonattachment.
You have to do exactly what you should do and not worry about the outcome, the consequences – no need to think about how failed or successful the outcome of your actions will be.
Answers to questions
The basis of personal and spiritual growth is to find answers to important questions on your own and to make new discoveries, step by step. But how do you continue to pursue unattachment during a period of falling in love? What are the differences between indifference due to inner burnout and true unattachment, can it be combined with the desire for self-improvement?
Where can we get the impetus to create unique inventions or write sensual poems if we give up worrying about the results of our actions? How can we learn to interact with those attachments that have been inherent in each of us by nature, because letting them go is the same as letting go of life itself?
Letting go of attachments to victories is easier than letting go of attachments to one’s failures. It is in moments of defeat that one can clearly realize that once and for all it is impossible to achieve nonattachment, and this is true. Accepting reality with non-attachment should be done gradually, moment by moment, making sure that our actions are consistent with our understanding of what is right, and learning to accept the results of our actions humbly.
Guru Puja.
Sri Sri Anandamurti taught, “Offer to God the fruits of your labor.” By offering your actions, you can learn to act unselfishly, and by offering your doubts, fears, worries, and desires, you can lessen your attachment to them. It is through such gentle methods that it is easier to develop unattachment.
The practice of offering may be as follows: invoke the most inclusive level of reality in your consciousness; recite the mantra three times, each time imagining a lotus flower in your hand, the color you desire. Ponder the action you were planning to do. Present it mentally while saying: “I offer this to the source of everything in the world, and I ask for the best possible fulfillment of what I have in mind.
Present what you care about, what worries you, what you worry about, and develop an appropriate motivation: “May everything happen exactly as it should,” “May this situation bring good to all,” “May there be harmony and balance,” etc.
The hardest thing to “let go” of is what you hold most dear. If the first time you don’t feel like you don’t feel like you’ve stopped worrying and clinging to your aspirations and hopes, keep offering them over and over again until you feel it, until you no longer identify your fears, worries, desires and hopes with yourself.
When you have made the offering, stay in the emotional space that has formed within you. It is the healing power of the higher Presence that can truly dispel and remove attachments and fears, and the better we come to know this good energy, the better we realize that it is the source of our love and strength. It is at this time that nonattachment ceases to be a mere release from one’s own anxiety, fear, and desires–it becomes much more.
With love, Maria Shakti
